Draining

OK, this could be long or short lets see with how the typing goes.

On Friday we had a meeting with and Educational Psychologist at school now our son already diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome, ADHD and Motor Dyspraxia.  But we feel school aren’t supporting his needs and in areas it’s our word against school so I guess to silence us they agree to bring in and Ed Psy to agree with them.   Now having a few of these meetings when our son was younger to get on the pathway to diagnoses what hard, they had their own ideas and didn’t really listen to us and someone from school was always in the meetings.

Well Friday it was just us no school staff and what a meeting, we told him of the conditions Oliver has and how school said there might be one more but he explained that is was just a label and not much medical or normal research had gone into the condition and there for he wouldn’t be saying he had it and it is link to another condition of Dyspraxia, now as he explain Oliver has Dyspraxia within the Motor side of things and for the first time he explained more about it and was surprised Oliver had been diagnosed with Motor Dyspraxia rather than just Dyspraxia, as the motor side is the most visible but its the brain side behind it.

We were able to say all our concerns about Oliver and the response we had from teachers and the school.  He made some many notes and it he agrees with a lot of things we said,  from what we had said he worked out the best assessments for Oliver to do with him.  We explained we think Oliver struggles with English and Science and how we think he might need 121 support for those subjects and we believe he struggles more in other subjects for for now our focus is core subjects.

We explained we had applied for and ECHP assessment and had been turned down and we wanted to know what support Oliver needed and what support we could get for him.  The assessments that were done with Oliver will decide if he is behind, needs support or struggles.  In the report it will tell us if an ECHP would be a good idea.

So after pouring your heart out and feeling emotional drained from it, we did come out feeling that we were listened too and not brushed off. So now we have the waiting game of getting the report back and we can have another meeting with him to discuss the report or change anything we think shouldn’t be on there.

For me I look forward to getting the report back and having a meeting with school on how best to support Oliver going forward.

Maybe I am being too hopeful and all will come back that there is no concerns and the concerns I have for Oliver at home with homework is not the same as school. So lets hold our breath and wait and see.

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What a start to the week!

As you can tell from previous blogs school isn’t listening to us and brushing things under the carpet, our son isn’t too bad he just needs support in English and his handwriting, maybe even science with his grade dropping! 

Anyhow back in April we wrote a letter to the head teachers with no reply what so ever and even with the SENCO a term on our son doesn’t have a surface/tablet to help with teachers reading his work.

Well yesterday some peed of parents wrote a letter to the govonors of the school and emailed it to them, well I woke up this morning to a reply that they are going to speak to school and get them to contact me. 

Let’s see what the week brings 😀

When something goes right

A proud moment here, my son as you have seen from other posts loves football more than anything else.   To help keep in happy and active in the holidays he generally does a football holiday camp with Chelsea FC foundation, I have to say I loved them amazing coaches who go above and beyond with all children.  My son today was awarded the Head Coach Player of the week trophy today for giving it his all for the last four days.    He is so happy its unreal and really proud of himself and its helped his confidence today as well.  He always comes home having had a really good day, going over skills and then mini games in the afternoon, he’s always hot and sweaty from working so hard, but it shows that even with additional needs our children can still shine in a mainstream holiday camp.  He even does their invitation only club on a Friday evening and I am sure when he is back after half term he will go in with a little more confidence 🙂

 

Also on a positive note had to go to the GP for a referral to OT as school had requested it and the GP has done the referral for us. (yepiee) so now we need to see if we get an assessment with OT and possible help again.  So many issues there not just handwriting.

 

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Annoyed!

Sorry blogging again as I need to vent and get things clear in my head and this is one way that helps me.

So Oliver comes out of school very angry, an incident happened in his English class were the class were misbehaving and the teacher gave out dentitions etc Oliver not being one of them.

But in tutor time another teacher goes in and tells him off and threatens him with a phone call home when he has done nothing wrong but the ones who had dentitions don’t get spoken to and the tutor for Oliver says and does nothing.

The thing is the tutor and this teacher know his conditions spoke to him in front of the class.  The teacher who came in also teachers Oliver and knows him well.  Angry is not the word at the moment.

I have emailed into his tutor, teacher involved and his English teacher to get their side of things and why they took this action. I have already emailed then heads on other issues, parents evening will be fun and heads will roll.

 

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The fight has begun.

So after emailing school requesting a meeting and waiting quite a few week with no reply and chasing finally I got a call from Oliver’s tutor who took on all my concerns and dealt with the ones he could and sent the rest to the SENCO.  I still haven’t had a meeting yet but I did get a call from her, who I feel palmed me off.  One good thing is they are re-testing for certain things to find out if support needs to be put in.  Oliver has now done these tests and we are awaiting the results but then if he passes them then school won’t do any more for him.    But how can they not when he failed a English SAT and his English grade hasn’t changed since starting the school 2.5 years ago.  But from the SENCO saying they have no TAs as they have left and all others are with children who have plans.  Doesn’t she get that this is what we want for Oliver for him to have support and no longer going under the radar like he currently is.  I was told now he is year 7 there is nothing they can do for his handwriting other than a laptop as he should have had help in year 5 which is a joke as I have been asking for this since year 5 when he started.  I guess it is waiting for a call or meeting to find out results and what happens next and then if no joy or no one listens then my next plan is too go to the head and higher.

 

I guess it’s let the fight carry on and never give up.

ECH Plan and School

So after thinking about things a lot more, I have started to look into the Governments website and look more into ECH Plans after seeing a link on social media and knowing you can apply for them yourself, all be it, it would be hard work.

I have started a word document which out lines my concerns and what I want to discuss with school and what I would like them to help with.

Does anyone know if there is a plan/formal support option before a ECH Plan and Statement of Special Needs the same thing or are they different ?

I am thinking of listing my concerns in detail for our meeting we are hopping for  and then I can give school a copy and help me stay on track.

I’m scared school will think why now ?  but then the last 2 years he has had great support and I have already been in this year to be palmed off, now I have to toughen up and not be palmed off and fight my corner.

Wish me luck x

When life gives you lemons!

When life gives you lemons fight back and make Lemonade!

 

So at recent CAMHs appointments and other I have been asked if Oliver has an ECH plan, nope he doesn’t!  Why ?  Well Oliver holds it all together at school and on their creditors (reward system) he is in the top 10 for his whole year (about 120 children) He is wonderful at school and they don’t see any issues.

Oliver explodes once he is home from school where he feels safe and isn’t judged, of course of things are really bad the I email in to school, some times getting a reply and sometimes not.

With half term now up on us and Oliver having a chance to decompress I am on a mission to fight back with school.  Will I get anywhere who knows but I have massive issues.

So I guess this blog is for me to get my head around what I would want for Oliver what are the issues and what I have done so far !

So Oliver has been at this school for 2 and a 1/2 years and in the low years (KS2) he had amazing teachers who understood the issues and supported him,  KS3 he has lots of different teachers and they don’t understand him.  When I went in at the start of term I was given a quick 20 minute meeting to be told they have no concerns and my concerns were they have seen and worked with worst.

Oliver’s handwriting is awful, I can’t read it and he has been told by his science teacher she is unable to read it and he has to do something else when the others are writing, how is that helping  ?  This was one of my concerns at the start of the year which according to the SENCO and his tutor isn’t an issue?  I have to teach him touch typing for them to think about allowing him a computer in school.  I would work on hand writing at home like we have done before under his good teachers but nothing has come home to help us.

Teachers haven’t understood his condition resulting in me emailing in, which one email I had a reply the other ignored and both ignored by the SENCO.

So how do I get and ECH plan when they think nothing is wrong, how do I get the support for handwriting when they’ve seen worst?

A email has gone into school requesting a meeting I believe I need to sit down and come up with my concerns and Oliver’s and see what happens and maybe ask CAMHs to help.

I am not the only parent who has had issues with school and the SENCO.

What would you suggest to help or advise?

 

I shall keep you posted x