I haven’t been able to blog for a while as it’s been half term and that can always keep us busy. Well normally in half term we put Oliver into a football club to help him have routine and doing something he loves, this half term we choose to let Oliver chill out at home as he had been doing so much sport this last term we thought he his body would like some time off.
I think we were wrong, Oliver although he chilled out a lot and he was good, he missed have the routine and something to do each day. He got bored very quickly, we did lots of dog walks to go out with the football and he even got his scooter back out this week which was lovely to see. I don’t think his body liked not doing any sport either, and by yesterday Oliver was looking really down and fed up which he had been like that most of the holiday, but sometimes it takes us parents a while to workout what is going on when your child can’t explain anything to you.
One sure fire way to help was his dad was going to go for a run yesterday and Oliver wanted to go with him, and yet again he loved it and come back feeling much better. So note to self book a football club in future holidays.
I am luckily that Oliver has an xbox but he isn’t happy playing on it for hours on end or his Ipad and that he would rather be so active.
One good thing too was he did some good homework, I gave him his tablet to do this to help and he had to do a drawing of Elizabeth 1, he did a good job and it was great for me to see him on his tablet and how it helps/doesn’t help. We don’t medicate at home other than for clubs after school this is due to wanting Oliver to eat to help with his weight as his tablet can suppress his appetite. So when I go to CAMHs I can’t always give the feed back on how he is and have to hope school are giving the right information. Thankfully I have no concerns with his tablet at the moment 🙂
OK, so we are awaiting and Education psychologist report to come through with in the next week or two to find out were Oliver stands to what support he might need for school in core subjects. This is a long wait might I had, while also awaiting an appointment with Occupational Therapy. This weekend I choose to help Oliver more with SPAG at home, giving him his tablet to help him focus we did a page of fractions (Maths being one of his faves this wasn’t a problem) However SPAG was another thing all together, we did one page and he didn’t seem to get it. I don’t understand how his English Teacher can say there are no issues and he can do more complex work when at home he can’t do the simple tasks, we did Prefixes, so nothing major and he didn’t get some of it. We even did his spelling homework, now for this all I do it make Oliver copy out the words three times, just copy from a sheet to writing them down and he was missing out letters. It’s like this in his homework diary he can’t seem to copy things word for word he misses out so much. So if he can’t do this for writing out his homework and copying things at home, how can he be doing it in school? Why has no one seem to pick up on this? The more I think about the more I think he is going unnoticed in Class.
I though I would do some of t his work to one help Oliver and two to show the Occupational Therapist his handwriting and letter forming as that is one main reason we are awaiting an appointment, now I wish I had done this for the Educational Psychologist too to have examples rather than just speaking about it.
Oh well lets await a report and see what happens from there, maybe if it comes back he’s fine I will show school the work at home, but then when I look at his school work I can see the same things in there.
Maybe some of his teachers just can’t be bothered to understand and work with him? Some are fabulous tho and a true credit to the profession. Maybe the unhelpful ones shouldn’t be teaching?
I guess time will tell on how things go and in the mean time Oliver carries on struggling and losing interest in school, the scary thing is this could carry on, unless something changes.
Morning Meltdowns !
Each morning is a battle ground,
Oliver wakes up at around the same time every morning, he has now learnt to come downstairs and have a biscuit and start and watch tv and that all goes fine it is when breakfast is done and it is time to get ready for school.
Oliver knows what to do or does he? He should brush teeth, wash his face, then get dressed for school and then he should be making his bed. He then has a little down time and then it is time to have his tablet and to get his shoes and coat on. Bag packing, lunch box, snack and water bottle are all done by either myself or my husband.
But Oliver goes into meltdown once breakfast is eaten and he is asked to get ready for school the fun starts 😦
He has to be given one command at a time, ie brush teeth, and once he is dressing it is normally he has been told or had to be told what to put on one item at at time. He is also asked more then once to do something for example put his jumper on. But being asked more than once he thinks you are nagging at him and he goes into meltdown and he gets angry and struggles to cope.
Meltdowns come with tears, shouting and shut down, then causes him to struggle to carry on with the same tasks. Sometimes a cuddle will help and he then carries on getting ready and taking instructions, You have to be careful how you give the instruction on what you want him to do as he does understand tones and can misread your tones and commands.
How can mornings be made easier?
How can Oliver be taught to cope before he has been given his medical?
I know if he changed his medication from a 8 hour tablet to a 12 hours and he had it before breakfast then he would possible be able to cope with getting ready for school his head would be quieter and clear for him to cope with normal everyday tasks. But this is something I am unsure on! I want Oliver to learn to cope with this every day normal tasks without medication. Something that is very hard at the moment.
Once again it was that time of year again parent evening, all in all a very good one 🙂
Comments from Oliver’s teacher where “well behaved, good manners always saying please and thank you and opening and holding doors open for others”
I am so proud of him for this as good manners are important in life, with his conditions it can be hard to teach him manners and understanding the importance of them, thankfully he seems to understand them if he doesn’t then he knows how to use them.
Work wise he is doing well and answering more in class however he does have a problem of not listening to other and their views 😦 This is something his teacher is trying to teach him but I am unsure with the Asperger’s if she will ever get him to understand other’s views when he has his own and one way thinking, but it is something good to work on with him.
He did get upset when I told him that we are going to try and bring in joined up handwriting, this is something he has always struggled with through out his school life and one thing he hates handwriting. But being joined up might help him flow more with his writing, I think his fears come from previous years where they have pushed for joined up handwriting rather than teaching him the basis first and then when he has done it the handwriting has been messy and he has been told off for it. Oliver can struggle with writing there is too much to think about for him, sentences, handwriting, spelling, punctuation and the list could go on. This is all too much information for him to take in and process at the same time and this is where our troubles lie. Having said that he is making massive improvement and only time and Oliver will tell.
My homework with his is to try and get him to do more interesting sentences for his homework, this is an on going one lol