So after emailing the governors of the school, who did email me back to say they would chase school and I will get a reply directly, you guess it weeks on and still no reply. I emailed the head of their academy trust, her PA got back to me to say they would look into things and arrange a meeting a day later a meeting is set with the head of the trust and the school! So in 3 days we have had a meeting arranged but still nothing from the school in question. But not the head of the school isn’t facing us, why would he do that when we can’t even reply to a letter, so we have the pleasure of the deputy head! I am ready to fight but having a feeling school will turn things on us and say we are over reacting to everything. still no surface so that is now 8 weeks on so a whole term in there!
Feeling happy about a meeting finally but still feel we have a long way to go with them and things won’t ever change!
When school aren’t responding to your letters and your son’s school report gets sent home and even tho you are so proud of him and his amazing report, you feel the need to reply to school with your comments on it!
Well I am in the middle of typing such a letter, just doing this blog for a break from it and help the emotions calm down for a clearer calmer letter, none of the teachers seem to understand Asperger’s syndrome or ADHD and even motor dyspraxia. So a letter of gentle reminding is needed, I am sure this will be another unanswered letter, another thing for them to ignore and another failing on their behalf and who’s the one left suffering Oliver.
Oh well I guess I should get back to it.
When you sit down and take stock of things and think nothing is going to change and you need to push even more than you have, after emailing the head teachers of my sons school at the end of April with no reply I have now typed a letter to the board of governors at the school. I will be sending that off today and then we shall see what happens from there, if nothing then I shall go to the head of the partnership as the school is an academy and then I shall do department of education local and then national. I have also done a parent ofsted questionnaire 🙂
Still no surface for my son with his handwriting and that is a term no now, don’t hold out much hope for next term either, having to go to the GP for a referral to OT as school don’t want to do it as they will be made to support and do something by being told to go online for resource and support.
Shame as my son isn’t the only SEN child they are failing.
A proud moment here, my son as you have seen from other posts loves football more than anything else. To help keep in happy and active in the holidays he generally does a football holiday camp with Chelsea FC foundation, I have to say I loved them amazing coaches who go above and beyond with all children. My son today was awarded the Head Coach Player of the week trophy today for giving it his all for the last four days. He is so happy its unreal and really proud of himself and its helped his confidence today as well. He always comes home having had a really good day, going over skills and then mini games in the afternoon, he’s always hot and sweaty from working so hard, but it shows that even with additional needs our children can still shine in a mainstream holiday camp. He even does their invitation only club on a Friday evening and I am sure when he is back after half term he will go in with a little more confidence 🙂
Also on a positive note had to go to the GP for a referral to OT as school had requested it and the GP has done the referral for us. (yepiee) so now we need to see if we get an assessment with OT and possible help again. So many issues there not just handwriting.
Sorry blogging again as I need to vent and get things clear in my head and this is one way that helps me.
So Oliver comes out of school very angry, an incident happened in his English class were the class were misbehaving and the teacher gave out dentitions etc Oliver not being one of them.
But in tutor time another teacher goes in and tells him off and threatens him with a phone call home when he has done nothing wrong but the ones who had dentitions don’t get spoken to and the tutor for Oliver says and does nothing.
The thing is the tutor and this teacher know his conditions spoke to him in front of the class. The teacher who came in also teachers Oliver and knows him well. Angry is not the word at the moment.
I have emailed into his tutor, teacher involved and his English teacher to get their side of things and why they took this action. I have already emailed then heads on other issues, parents evening will be fun and heads will roll.
So after emailing school requesting a meeting and waiting quite a few week with no reply and chasing finally I got a call from Oliver’s tutor who took on all my concerns and dealt with the ones he could and sent the rest to the SENCO. I still haven’t had a meeting yet but I did get a call from her, who I feel palmed me off. One good thing is they are re-testing for certain things to find out if support needs to be put in. Oliver has now done these tests and we are awaiting the results but then if he passes them then school won’t do any more for him. But how can they not when he failed a English SAT and his English grade hasn’t changed since starting the school 2.5 years ago. But from the SENCO saying they have no TAs as they have left and all others are with children who have plans. Doesn’t she get that this is what we want for Oliver for him to have support and no longer going under the radar like he currently is. I was told now he is year 7 there is nothing they can do for his handwriting other than a laptop as he should have had help in year 5 which is a joke as I have been asking for this since year 5 when he started. I guess it is waiting for a call or meeting to find out results and what happens next and then if no joy or no one listens then my next plan is too go to the head and higher.
I guess it’s let the fight carry on and never give up.
It’s been a while since I have blogged and I really must start to get back into the habit of it, even if no one reads my blogs it’s a way of me distressing, collecting my thought and putting things back in perceptive or even venting.
Living with a child if not preteen with ASD and ADHD can be very tough but then it can also be so rewarding when you look on the unique way of things and there funny little characters. How they see the world in a different way but also how they can see the truth in things.
Also living with a teenager who suffers from Chronic Pain and fatigue all from having a nasty virus in September and now their world and yours is turn upside down, things that where possible only a few months ago are now impossible. Learning to live differently and adjust is a big step but a step my teen has taken in her stride and one step at time too. Don’t get me wrong she has had some very dark days but with love and support things can shine through, acceptance is a big key and her being brave enough to speak about it not just to us as a family but also being brave enough to tell people in a school setting.
I am always amazing at how children/young adults deal with illness. They seam to take it all in their stride, never questioning why me? Dealing with what life has thrown at the them in the most amazing way, working out the new path they now must travel, I wonder how many adults would be the same?
Time to sign off for now, hopefully I shall find the time to be back soon 🙂