Oliver’s obsession is football and a life saver I have to say, If he’s having a bad day or a bad five minutes then off we go for a walk with a ball at his feet come rain or shine. Even a pack of football cards can do the trick or watching a match on the TV.
The football cards are a great treat for him coping with the food shop too, as the smells and noise can cause issues or rude people, who like to bang their trolly into you or push you out the way to get somewhere. Again Oliver can mainly hold it together in the store and it will all hit him once home but if you have the cards then as soon as we come in he takes his cards to his room and gets lost in looking through them and placing them in their folder allowing him time to calm down and re focus and forget about the shopping.
Mobile phones and twitter, the fact Reading FC have a running commentating on their games on twitter means if you have to go to town which again Oliver doesn’t like unless its a sports shop due to sensory issues a child with ASD and ADHD would have, it helps to keep him calm and safe as he can stop every now and again and check the score or whats happening in the game, and then we can carry on the shopping trip and Oliver will discuss what he’s just read meaning he isn’t noticing the shopping trip as he is in his own safe world while doing it.
Football clubs, again a life saver, after a bad day at school Oliver will come home and struggle through homework to then be getting ready to go to football club were for an hour or and hour and a half he can be lost in the skills being taught the games being played. It also helps run off his excess ADHD energy. It also gives him something else to focus on once home because he can then tell you all about his training session.
Fifa 17 is there for when you can’t take him out with a ball at his feet or he doesn’t have training on, even tho I limited his computer time as so he doesn’t spend all spare time on it. It again helps him escape and once he’s finished playing he will tell you the score or his team in such a happy carefree way.
Football even effects clothing, Oliver only wears football tops, shorts and jogging bottoms, he will wear jeans on a very special occasion but normal times nope. Over the years he’s had normal t-shirts etc but he seems to not wear them preferring the football tops I’m guessing with the ASD this is a sensory issue ? He does wear his school uniform but as soon as he’s home it is off and I guess he has learnt that it has to be worn and he’s got use to the route of wearing it.
Even SKY sports news and any football matches help, when its transfer window you know about it as that is all he talks about. But on a serious note when he is upset or angry then football helps so much if you talk about anything to do with football then and let him lead the conversation it can calm him down and once a little calmer allow him to explain what has happened to make him so angry or upset and then you can talk more about football allowing him to calm down again before you can carry on the conversation or let him know what plan you are putting into place to help him, this is also where the football at his feet helps as while he is playing he is calming down enough to explain things to you and then you being able to sort them out for him.
So thank you football for being Oliver’s obsession being his life saver being his safe world.