Morning Meltdowns !
Each morning is a battle ground,
Oliver wakes up at around the same time every morning, he has now learnt to come downstairs and have a biscuit and start and watch tv and that all goes fine it is when breakfast is done and it is time to get ready for school.
Oliver knows what to do or does he? He should brush teeth, wash his face, then get dressed for school and then he should be making his bed. He then has a little down time and then it is time to have his tablet and to get his shoes and coat on. Bag packing, lunch box, snack and water bottle are all done by either myself or my husband.
But Oliver goes into meltdown once breakfast is eaten and he is asked to get ready for school the fun starts 😦
He has to be given one command at a time, ie brush teeth, and once he is dressing it is normally he has been told or had to be told what to put on one item at at time. He is also asked more then once to do something for example put his jumper on. But being asked more than once he thinks you are nagging at him and he goes into meltdown and he gets angry and struggles to cope.
Meltdowns come with tears, shouting and shut down, then causes him to struggle to carry on with the same tasks. Sometimes a cuddle will help and he then carries on getting ready and taking instructions, You have to be careful how you give the instruction on what you want him to do as he does understand tones and can misread your tones and commands.
How can mornings be made easier?
How can Oliver be taught to cope before he has been given his medical?
I know if he changed his medication from a 8 hour tablet to a 12 hours and he had it before breakfast then he would possible be able to cope with getting ready for school his head would be quieter and clear for him to cope with normal everyday tasks. But this is something I am unsure on! I want Oliver to learn to cope with this every day normal tasks without medication. Something that is very hard at the moment.
Once again it was that time of year again parent evening, all in all a very good one 🙂
Comments from Oliver’s teacher where “well behaved, good manners always saying please and thank you and opening and holding doors open for others”
I am so proud of him for this as good manners are important in life, with his conditions it can be hard to teach him manners and understanding the importance of them, thankfully he seems to understand them if he doesn’t then he knows how to use them.
Work wise he is doing well and answering more in class however he does have a problem of not listening to other and their views 😦 This is something his teacher is trying to teach him but I am unsure with the Asperger’s if she will ever get him to understand other’s views when he has his own and one way thinking, but it is something good to work on with him.
He did get upset when I told him that we are going to try and bring in joined up handwriting, this is something he has always struggled with through out his school life and one thing he hates handwriting. But being joined up might help him flow more with his writing, I think his fears come from previous years where they have pushed for joined up handwriting rather than teaching him the basis first and then when he has done it the handwriting has been messy and he has been told off for it. Oliver can struggle with writing there is too much to think about for him, sentences, handwriting, spelling, punctuation and the list could go on. This is all too much information for him to take in and process at the same time and this is where our troubles lie. Having said that he is making massive improvement and only time and Oliver will tell.
My homework with his is to try and get him to do more interesting sentences for his homework, this is an on going one lol
Well over the last few months things have changed. As any parent with a child who has Asperger’s and ADHD knows that change is a difficult thing and small things make a big difference and they must be done at the pace of the child.
Oliver’s sister does study support on a morning and then goes onto breakfast club but Oliver has never wanted to attend breakfast club, until one morning he sat in the car and asked his dad if he could go and guess what he loved it. He didn’t eat any breakfast as he said he didn’t like it or having breakfast there, thanfully he does have breakfast at home so from that point of view I am not concerned. But by him going to helps so much as I start work at 6 am and his dad does the school run and then goes into work by Oliver helping and going to breakfast club it means his dad can get into work on time. He is beigning to socialise a little more with people in breakfast and he loves playing table tennis, this all started from doing one homework club at school. It seemed to give him confidance to do more.
It has even lead to him sleeping over at his nanny and grandads. 🙂 He has dinner at home and then we take him over he has a small time to play, watch TV before bed. (in previous times this is when I would get a call to come bad collect him or I wouldn’t even have got to the car) He goes to bed sharing the room with his sister to give him some comfort and he takes all the teddies he needs. He doesn’t sleep with the teddies he is just used to them being on his bed and wanted them on the bed like he has at home. I have to take his cereal over and his bread for toast because even if nanny gets the same to Oliver it isn’t the same and this is to make sure he eats breakfast, I also give him a time on when I will be picking him up, this never gives me a lay in lol as he likes to be home early. But for us this is a massive start. It enabled us to go to a party and then this weekend he asked to go on his own accord which meant we got unexpected time together which was lovely.
He has rebooked for another course in Tennis which he seems to be loving and he is doing very well at I sat and watched his last session before half term, and was pleased to see the progress he had made and to see him enjoying something and doing it independently with out me or my husband or his sister.
I have parents evening tomorrow night so I am sure I will find time to blog about that, sometimes time flies you sit thinking I should blog about that but you never get around to it. Life can be hard but it can also be so rewarding.