I think we could be moving direction in the obsessions Oliver has, he still likes football and talks and plays it but Tennis and Trains are massively creeping in.
Last week Oliver went to a Tennis club with his Sister, and he loved it! He was in a different group from his sister so didn’t have her around the whole time but he did it and whats more he wants to go after school and learn more about Tennis. Which is great that he has another interest and an interest that will keep him active and healthy rather than sitting on a computer console or always in front of the tv.
Also with Tennis Oliver has to over come so many difficulties with his motor dyspraxia and the need for lots of hand eye coordination which he can and does struggle with, But watching him play in the garden he seems to be overcoming those issues.
Also with him joining a tennis club I am less worried than if he wanted to join a football club, where a lot more issues could and would arise, football in the school playground proves that. As his dad pointed out one problem with football is the amount of cheating that goes on and as a child with Asperger’s Oliver likes to follow the rules and doesn’t understand why people break them and it can cause a lot of confusion while playing football with others. So with the hope that he will be learning in a group environment but playing is single and against someone not as part of a team, I am hoping it will cause less confusion and it will be something Oliver enjoys.
I am sure I will keep you all posted,
The other day we had just come back from holiday and had forgotten to give Oliver his medication, I have to say I will not forget again for him!
He seamed unable to cope with the day, just very emotional and lots of energy which is what we have when meds have worn off but without having them it seems a little more than that?
He said his head felt very busy and I think it was hurting him and he was unable to think or focus on anything and his anxieties were heighten from it causing him more problem.
I am worried maybe he has become reliant on his medication? He has an eight-hour one and then he has a four-hour one after school which I have to say he can go with out this one, his appetite comes backs and it gives him a chance to eat he only has more energy by not having this four-hour one. But when he misses the right hour one he is always at home, when no homework needs to be done and he can relax in his own world.
When we forgot the eight-hour one we hadn’t taken him anywhere major just walking the dog something he loves but this time he felt it was all overwhelming.
Has anyone else had this problem or concerns? I would be interest to know.
Well we have had a lovely week away, doing so much and having so much fun.
Oliver was very excited about the holiday and in the build up to the holiday I kept talking to him about any concerns he had and to see if there was anything I could do to ease them and make him feel more comfortable.
One of those things was what teddies he could take with him, even tho he doesn’t cuddle up to a teddy on a nighttime he still has them sitting on his bed and wanted them to be sitting on his bed on holiday. He also worried about bedding, so I took a sleeping bag for him and his own pillow which help him feel at home and more comfortable and as for sensory issues it already had his own scent on rather than a scent he isn’t used to.
Days out went well too, just sometimes Oliver became bored after a while and became very quiet in those times and I learnt to read the signs to chance things around so Oliver never became overloads or heading for a meltdown, which left everyone happy and more important Oliver was happy. Eating out could sometimes become a problem with Oliver not liking what was on the menu or not liking the way things where cook and he did seem to eat the same thing everyday. I did make sure he had a good breakfast and Lunch to he wasn’t hungry and lots of snacks, It does make me wonder if we would have be able to go aboard and stay in a hotel? How would Oliver cope? something I have to look into in the future.
Drinking 😦 Oliver stopped drinking and at first I couldn’t work out why he was happy to have fruit shoot bottles but no normal squash, Then I worked out Oliver could taste the difference in the water from home and he didn’t like it so wouldn’t drink it, when i spoke to him about it he said he didn’t like it, ( He never told him he didn’t like it ) I brought him bottle water to make all his drinks and for the rest of the holiday he happily drank, thank goodness for bottled water.
Once home thing became a different matter, Oliver found it hard to settle in when he came home, having meltdowns and being very quite and very emotional, which we never had on arriving on Holiday, maybe that was because of the excitement and all the fun things he would be doing. He still after a few days fully settled down at home but with time and patience we will get there. It does make me wonder what problems I will have with him going back to school in Sept?
At least this holiday he didn’t come down with a sickness bug like the last holiday, 🙂
All in all a positive out look,